August 29, 2010

Wedding Idea

Let me preface this first by saying we are not doing this.  However, while I was lazing around today I began to wonder if there would be a way to have our wedding on a budget. A serious budget.  The kind of budget what would get us our own TV show about, thus making us famous and in turn rich (when we could then have a non-budget wedding). It would be a gimmick for sure, but when I really started to wonder about it, I began to wonder if someone could hold the type of wedding we want for the number of people we want for $1000 or less.

I mean, think about it.  Trading Places redecorates a WHOLE ROOM in your house for that, and in 2 days  no less.  Surely I could pull together a wedding in 2 years for $1000 or less? Yes, no or maybe? I might try to do something like, "In my Budget wedding we'll do this..." like the beautiful hydrangeas I bought yesterday, which would make great bouquets, for $4.00 a bunch.

Also I am toying with the idea of starting a "wedding etiquette blog" for those of us in the real world where we don't care if it's a 5:00 wedding, we want to wear flip-flops, and I am starting to feel a lot of the wedding business is a racket. Seriously, some of the prices I've gotten for things are just so outrageous, I not only wouldn't spend that much money on them, I would feel like I *couldn't* spend that much money on it. I wonder how much of those etiquette rules really honestly apply in this day and age? When the world is full of people who don't get married at 19 with their parents paying for everything, but who get married at 31 and have already been living together for 6 years and pay for it themselves because they have careers and their parents are retired and living in Boca (just an example people, just an example.)

Sunday Morning Musings.

So this bright and early Sunday morning, while I sit in my very quite house, I am just allowing my mind to wander. For the first time in a really long time, I'm not exhausted, even though I have gotten a full 8 hours sleep. I have this strange feeling in the pit of my stomach, which might be called energy. We worked hard yesterday cleaning the house and yard, but I wasn't in dire need of a nap. I am relatively relaxed.  What does this all mean?

It means my new job was the right move. It means I am no longer worn out and down and over it all. It means, that sometimes it's not about the money or the prestige, but about working so you can live, rather than living for the work.  So far pretty much everyone has been supportive, but still there's a slight catch when I say that I used to be Executive This Level, and now I am Assistant Executive This Level. But WHATEVER!! I am happier again that I have been about just life in general, and it's nice to wake up at 7:30 on a Sunday because you are fully rested, not because you can't sleep due to worrying and concerns about the job you have to go to the next day.

August 27, 2010


THis week the third and final book in The Hunger Games trilogy came out. A while back I wrote about The Hunger Games and Catching Fire, and now that I have finished this third book, I have to say it was just how the series should have ended. I however am not sure that I loved it, since there are always things you know are coming, and things you do not want to happen end up happening anyway.  But it happened the way it should, the way it *would* in this futuristic North America.

For hopes of not spoiling anything for those of you who haven't yet been able to read the enitre book, or even series, I won't go into specifics, and when I do in at a later date, I will certainly title it "SPOILER".

I would give the entire series 7/10 stars. Well worth it so go pick up a copy today!

August 22, 2010

Sick or not sick

I know it's going to sound like R and I are spoiled or rich, and we are neither.  However, occasionally we do have some cleaners come to our house to help us clean it. It's one of the perks of having connections in the property management industry, and they do a good job. I highly recommend help if you are like us, which is neither spoiled or rich, but rather incredibly lazy!

But before they come, I always pick up a little.  Mostly it's to make the areas I want them to clean accessible, but also I don't want them do judge me or my house. I know, I know, I've got to get over that, but it's how I am and I just have to deal with it.

Anyway, they were scheduled to come on Thursday so Wednesday night we were doing the obligatory pick and straighten everything up. Being that we have 3 animals in the house, there is a lot of cat/dog hair if we do not vacuum on a regular basis, so I was doing that. And I had a sneezing fit, where seriously, I thought I was going to die.  Die, I tell you!  I knew then I was going to be sick.

Sure enough, I woke up on Thursday with a sore throat, a horribly stuffy nose, and was exhausted.  Allergies or a cold,  I couldn't tell. Knowing I had to start my new job Friday, I dosed myself with as much Vitamin C, Airborne, Emergen-C, water, Dayquil and Zicam as I could stand.  I literally drank over 100 oz of water on Thursday alone.  And had tea, honey, lemon...practically every possible thing you could think of to keep oneself from getting sick. I even added some raw garlic in my tea just in case it really has healing powers like they say.

But when I woke up on Saturday, the stuff nose and congestion were gone!!

So I would like to thank Emergen-C, Zicam, Airborne and Dayquil for getting me through it, and making my Saturday and Sunday much more pleasant. I am still chugging water like a fish, but that's probably better for me anyway.

Oh, and the cleaners, they did a fabulous job, and our house is in great shape!

August 21, 2010

B and MOH

Today my very good friend, K and I went to do the very first round of  trying on wedding dresses.  It was *so* much fun!! I went to Priscilla of Boston, in Cameron Village in Raleigh, and we had a lovely time.  It was very personalized, the consultant took the time to not only ask what I wanted and didn't want, but also asked about the other stuff in my wedding, so I could have a full picture of what we were getting. It was great!!

i had looked online a lot of the types of dressed I thought I wanted, and finalized it down to about 6, but they didn't have a few in the store yet (as they are new) so while we were there, I picked 2 others.  I have always pictured myself in a very poofy, crinoline-filled cream puff of a dress. I want a dress that stands on its own, with no help from me.

After today I realize that is not the style for me at all.

But there are other styles that look very good, and I found a few that I really liked. Of course I can't (or choose not to ) post pictures, since I don't want R to see it before the big day, whenever it may be.

I feel that when I get one detail nailed down, be it dress, or venue or heck, even a final number on the guest list, I will be a little less concerned with all the other details falling into place.

August 19, 2010

Last Day

Since it's about as official as it gets, I can say that today is my last day at my current job.  It's been such a great opportunity here, and I have learned a lot, but its time to move on, try something new, and see what I can do in a different environment.  I'm very sad to leave my co-workers and the friends that I've made behind, but at the same time, I am very excited about this new chapter in my life.

So wish me luck!

August 16, 2010

Yo quiero Taco Bell

For anyone who has to occasionally eat on the road, I just went by Taco Bell and ordered their chicken Cantina Tacos. It's corn tortilla's onion, cilantro, and lime. That's it. Super tasty and low call too ( has nutritional info but I can say it's better than pretty much any other fast food option). Right now these are limited time, but I hope Taco Bell will decide to keep making them.

Also, most Mexican restaurants have these types of tacos, labeled Tacos a la Parilla or something.  I first had this type of Taco at a Fiesta that is held in Raleigh every year, called Fiesta Del Pueblo.  It's a huge multi-Hispanic cultural festival, and if you are in the area, you should certainly go. But I digress.
Anyway, these are super tasty tacos, filled with your choice of meat, onion, lime and cilantro.  All the flavors go together so well, you really don't miss cheese, guacamole and sour cream.

1000 or so days to go.

Despite my best intentions, I can see that for the moment, this blog is going to be taken over by the wedding planning.  But, it's my blog, and I guarantee that having a place to let it all out will be entertaining to say the least.  And maybe some of  my adventures will help others out there.

One thing a lot of people have asked (after asking how he proposed and to see the ring) is have we set a date yet. We haven't really set a date, however there are some rules we must follow.

1. Cannot be in the fall or winter as there is are Charlotte Basketball games, or a Florida Football games (as R and his family are avid sports fans, and I refuse to have people leave our wedding to watch the Gators trounce LSU or someone), or UNC-Chapel Hill games, get the picture.
2. I do not like cold weather, so I prefer not to be married in the winter.  It makes me grumpy bear.
3. I like spring and fall, however, we must take into account rule 1.
4. Our guest list is already at over 200 people, and that's mostly family.  We have a lot of family. And we want to have them all with us to celebrate.
5.Two words. Open Bar.

So we're trying to pick a date far enough in the future to save up and not go crazy in the planning.  Plus it gives us lots of time to find vendors, caterers, florists and everyone else we need to have at the wedding.

August 12, 2010

Call a Dr! She's got "Wedding Stuff"

So even though we've picked a date far into the future (2 years, 8 months and some odd number of days if anyone wants to know) that doesn't mean I'm not letting myself get carried away with the fun of planning, looking, brainstorming, stressing, planning some more, calling places and in general getting fully overwhelmed by the sheer amount of Wedding Stuff there is out there.

It's almost like a epidemic, the amount of Wedding Stuff. websites, pictures, magazines, bridal shows, etiquette books, more websites.  And the crazy thing is, I didn't exactly shy away from Wedding Stuff before we got engaged. I would look at websites, or magazines, or offer advice and suggestions to my friends who were tying the knot; like most little girls, I had an idea in my head from the time I was old enough to imagine, what I wanted my wedding to be like, and though it might have changed in the many years since then ('cause I was most likely 3, if not younger when i discovered big poofy dresses) I've thought about it my whole life.

I mean, really who hasn't. And I'll ignore all those hands raised by the men out there. But I don't think I've met a girl who hasn't' at some point in her life said I'm going to do "X" when I get married.

But I had no idea how much more there was out there. How much stuff one can inundate themselves in if they try (and I define "try" as Google: wedding ideas). I have started a wedding binder, because I love organization and office supplies like runners love running, and I wish I could scan it all into this website and let you see just how obsessed I have become, and it's been 2 weeks.  I might upload some photos at some point, when the ideas have been refined a little bit. We'll see.

The good part of all of this is I am blissfully happy. I have also discovered  that I would be just as happy if we were to go to city hall or a Justice of the Peace, or the Courthouse and just get married. But we want to do this with our friends and families. And i like that fact that we both want the ceremony and pageantry of this tradition, as much as we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other.

The thing so many people can forget, and I am sure I will lose sight of at some point, be it for 10 minutes or 10 months (though I hope not that long) is this whole thing is about spending the rest of my life with the man I love.

The rest is just details!

August 11, 2010

Jillian Michaels

I started in April doing the Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred, and did it diligently for 30 days, then fell out of practice doing it, and have started again.

And can I just say, Jillian Michaels kicks my butt every time I do this video.  FOr 20 minutes, it is the biggest work out I can imagine. I am sweating and groaning and the next day my muscles ACHE!!

Totally worth $ 9.99 from Target. I highly recommend it, if you are looking to tone up and lose inches I would say this is a great video.

But I get results! I can now do 25 pushups, and have noticeble muscles in my arms. It makes me excited!

August 09, 2010

I'm Back!

Back from vacation and back to work.  Lots to update on, just wanted to post a little Hello! for now and we'll get to the good stuff later!

August 03, 2010

Camp Linn Haven

This week I am on vacation with my whole (new) family at Camp Linn Haven in Linville NC. It is  a Lutheran Church camp in the beautiful mountains of NC and is the perfect place to relax and do nothing.  Perfect example: Today I took a nap from 1:00 to 5:25.


This was followed by and preceded by lots of reading, sitting on the many porch swings, and eating.  After dinner usually the evenings start with game playing and drinking, and it is the most relaxed setting you can imagine.  This is only slightly exaggerated.  There are a lot of family members here which means lots of kids, and lots of kids means lots of noise, but there is also lots of outside and open space for the kids to run in, scream in, jump in and be kids in.  Which makes it a little more great actually.  The best part about the whole day was the 30 or so minutes I spent down by the river with my guy skipping rocks, and just enjoying the "zen" of the moment.   I wish I had more exciting stuff to blog about, but really, this vacation is just what the DR. ordered.

Good food, great company, and lots of free time!

August 02, 2010


On Thursday night, R's band was supposed to play a show. I say supposed to, because it was not raining when we got there, or set up, or anything like that, but about 10 minutes before they were supposed to start their outside show, it started lightening. Then about 40 minutes after that, it started raining.  And that should have been that, but they decided to play an acoustic show which was not really great idea, as they could not set up their drums and thus was not their full band, but they are troopers, and I love that they did not want to disappoint their fans, so they did it.

Anyway, I went home when I realized it was closer to 11 than 10 and I needed to be awake early the next day, AND I still had to walk the dog.

I got home, walked the dog and was in bed reading when R got home. He got in bed to say goodnight, said " Hey, look at me" and I did, and he took my hand and asked me to marry him!!!


I said " Are you serious?"  He said "Yes," and I said " Of Course!" and then might have squealed some more, I honestly don't remember. I asked him one last time if he was serious and he said "Do you want me to get on one knee?" and he did!  We had my mom's diamond, and on Friday got it reset and are very very excited.  We've told our families and friends.  I think I am more excited than R, but I know he is excited too. I imagine there will be posts on the wedding here too, but I'll try to post at least as many non-wedding posts as wedding posts.